The Importance of Self Advocacy
We’ve been trained to surrender our power.
“Let someone else take care of it.”
“I don’t have time.”
“That can wait.”
We must be our primary advocate. I learned about this while working as a Home Health Aid. In doing this work I needed to advocate for people who could not advocate for themselves. I became conscious of how infrequently I spoke up on my own behalf. While I was a voice for others I did not use my voice towards my concerns.
Working with people with disabilities taught me how to advocate. I decided to apply this skill to my own life and my personal goals.
I reviewed the principals of advocacy and refined them to three practices.
I tend to reduce most helpful actions to three or less steps because I truly believe we have greater success if we keep life simple and doable.
Here is Self Help 101 – the three steps to becoming your own best friend.
Action number one: Learn to say NO. This is a powerful word to use when you are clearing out unnecessary elements in your life. It is also the perfect word to use when you begin to set boundaries. A strong and well used no sets the tone. It sets the parameters of what you will and will not do as it relates to your well -being.
Action number two: Take control of your life. The road to personal success is centered on a movement forward. Our desires and goals can be laid out along a one way path that holds a few rest stops. The road with too many detours becomes confusing. This step develops deliberate and focused attention on your quest. You create a subtle wave of synchronistic success patterns. Write the map of your soul desire and consider it a one way portal toward your authentic self.
Action number three: Look at yourself with the same eyes you look at your precious loved ones.
Go to that space deep within where the undisputable truly exists. You’ve been there. Recall a time when you knew something with great certainty. There was no question. You were completely sure of your instinct. When you arrive at that magical place where you have full control set your goals in place.
Now look at yourself as you would look at someone you adored that needed your support. You would have full confidence that they could succeed. Give yourself that gift. Believe your desires deserve success.
By applying these steps to daily living and you will walk with relative ease towards achieving your goals.
When you arrive set some new goals. The road to inner truth is always unfolding. The journey is expansive and that is part of the joyous adventure of life.